Hearing “no” is difficult. If it’s a job you really wanted, the sting can linger. However, if you’re going to be a successful job seeker, you need to figure out how to handle rejection with grace while not allowing it to bruise your ego.
Some job searches are extensive. Lengthy applications followed by multiple interviews, tests, background checks and phone calls add up over time. You might think you’re about to begin hiring negotiations when you suddenly get notice that you’ve been eliminated from the candidate pool. If it’s a canned rejection letter, it can be particularly maddening.
This is not the time to lose your cool. Take a deep breath, keep stress levels low, and follow these five simple pieces of advice from the GetFive career coaches:
Spread out your eggs
Never put all your eggs in one basket. This means, never put all your hopes and energy into just one job prospect, because you’ll end up crushed if you don’t get it. Just as it’s wise to diversify your investments, apply to multiple jobs and keep your ears peeled. The larger the net you can spread, the more fish you’ll catch (i.e., job offers you’ll receive).
Don’t get angry, get information
It can be difficult to be rejected when you think you’re a leading candidate. Instead of getting angry and tarnishing your professional reputation, ask the employer for feedback. You may not always get an answer, but knowing the “why” behind the decision can help you feel better, and you can use that information to adjust your strategy at the next interview.
Don’t take it personally
To get a job you need to be confident, and it’s hard to maintain that confidence if you keep getting rejected. Know that you’re not alone. It can take months of hearing “no” before hearing a “yes.” Your skills will get noticed if you persevere. If you feel down, take an afternoon off of job hunting and do something just for you, such as seeing a movie or visiting the beach. Then hit the ground hard again the next day.
Focus on your strengths
No one is perfect, and when you’re rejected it’s easy to focus on your flaws. Resist this urge and instead focus on your strengths. Think about the things that really make you special and separate you from the competition. If you’re having trouble, consider working with a professional career coach. GetFive coaches have many proven strategies for job seekers, including the Seven Stories exercise and the Five-Year Vision.
Lean on your support network
If you’re feeling down or frustrated, try not to stew in your negative feelings alone. Your support network is there to help. Talk with friends or family. Email your career coach. Set up a lunch with your mentor. Reach out to your professional network for advice. These people will help keep you focused on the positive so you can power ahead and get the job you deserve.
